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Lately, there have been many religiously-inspired letters in here and, at this point, I feel a need to take a chance and respond to some of the thoughts expressed, using same-sex marriage as an example.

First, let's come from the standpoint of owning one's words. Saying that you didn't claim to be against same-sex marriage, the Bible did, doesn't cut it with those of us who don't use the Bible as our holy book. Either you are prejudiced or you aren't. Own it. No one seems to pay much attention to Deuteronomy 22:13-21, which states that a woman must be a virgin in order to wed and, if she isn't before marriage, she must be executed, so why focus on same-sex unions? I could write for days on the biblical "do not's" that most Christians choose to ignore, such as the 300 original commandments, so that argument, "The Bible made me do it," doesn't wash.

The only "sin" I recognize is anything that causes us to move away from love into causing physical and/or emotional pain to any life form, all of which I consider sacred. Guaranteed, this is a tall order and impossible to fulfill but a good start.

Words of agreement to limit someone's rights, to see them as evil or less than and quiet acceptance when others are saying these things can, under the right conditions of time, place and circumstance, lead to physical and/or emotional pain or even death. In Hitler's time, it led to the deaths of millions of Jews, homosexuals, gypsies and others. In '50 America, it led to the abuse of interracial couples and their children. In the founding of this country, labeling the people already here as heathens paved the way for attempted genocide, and, even in the days before Roe vs. Wade, such words led to the deaths of countless women by such methods as coat hangers, motor oil and "falling down stairs." So, if your words have led you to a place where you can no longer feel the pain you inflict with them, to a place where it's acceptable to take that first step of denying them their basic human rights, whether you agree with them or not according to your own particular beliefs, then a line has been crossed and it's time to take a step back and think about what really motivates you.

As for those "other" people out there, we are not so different. We also help our neighbor, donate, recycle, squabble among family and friends over dumb stuff from time to time, enjoy our kids, our homes, our gardens, our accomplishments. We aren't evil, lost or a threat because we follow other teachings or our own hearts. Before you speak or decide about a person, ask yourself if these are your thoughts or someone else's. Do you really want to see harm come to another farther down the road because of your words, so seemingly harmless today? Will you be comfortable in your own marriage knowing you have worked to deny this to someone else? Use your heart. We are all sisters and brothers on this small earth and it's time to stop all the pain between us.

By now, have you assumed that I am gay? I'm not and it should not have been a thought to entertain as we should all feel responsible to speak well for each other. A better thought would be to wonder what pain others are suffering, then ask them how you can help. Bring joy. Empathize. Listen to everyone. Dance with your neighbor. Cry with your enemy. Leave many happy people of all kinds in your wake. Because, in the end, it's about love. No, "Yes, buts." Just love.

Lyn K. Humphries
English, Ind.
September 19, 2012

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    September 21, 2012 | 03:59 PM

    Thank you for such inspired, truthful words! It's always refreshing to find that not all are narrow-minded.

    People like you are why change really is possible.


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    Nice Sentiment.....but
    October 15, 2012 | 04:11 PM

    Your sentiments are nice but out of context. While I do not agree with slandering anyone or excluding anyone I do agree that the union of homosexuals in "Holy Matrimony" is appalling. If you want to call it a legal union or a law binding union is one thing but "Marriage" is a religious institution that only a man and a woman can enter into. To call such unions marriage is to slap the face of every believer that I know and probably the ones I don't.

    Your reference to Deuteronomy 22:13-21 is also without merit, or at least way out of context. See, there was this man that came along in the New Testament, his name was Jesus Christ and he set fourth a new standard by which to live. He freed us from our imperfections and gave us an out. He saved us from the wrath you mentioned. For every offense you could be killed because of in the old testament I will show you that we were saved from ourselves by Christ.

    You can call be prejudiced or a bigot or whatever, but the bible commanded in the new testament in 1 Peter Live such good lives among the pagans that, though they accuse you of doing wrong, they may see your good deeds and glorify God on the day he visits us.

    This is why I try to not judge and hate. Also it is why I am calling you on your letter. I agree we should love one another but part of it is reminding your neighbor of the moral standard and paving the way with example.

    I said it and I OWN IT!

    Love and Blessings to you and your family.

    Eric Faith

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